{"id":1757,"date":"2020-04-24T18:00:00","date_gmt":"2020-04-24T11:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/?p=1757"},"modified":"2020-11-28T15:44:14","modified_gmt":"2020-11-28T08:44:14","slug":"stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_81 ez-toc-wrap-center counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #ffffff;color:#ffffff\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #ffffff;color:#ffffff\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#Introduction\" >Introduction<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#1_Give_Yourself_Compassion_First\" >1. Give Yourself Compassion First<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#2_Become_Aware_of_the_Pain_of_Self_Pity\" >2. Become Aware of the Pain of Self Pity<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#3_Refuse_to_Be_a_Victim\" >3. Refuse to Be a Victim<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#4_Change_the_Hidden_Question_That_Keeps_You_Stuck\" >4. Change the Hidden Question That Keeps You Stuck<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#5_Take_Responsibility_for_Your_Perception\" >5. Take Responsibility for Your Perception<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#6_Embrace_Courage_and_Be_Kind_to_Yourself\" >6. Embrace Courage and Be Kind to Yourself<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#7_Acknowledge_the_Good_in_Your_Life\" >7. Acknowledge the Good in Your Life<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#8_Notice_Others_Less_Fortunate\" >8. Notice Others Less Fortunate<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#9_Set_aside_some_time_to_volunteer\" >9. Set aside some time to volunteer<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-11\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#10_Count_your_blessings\" >10. Count your blessings<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-12\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#11_Unplug_from_social_media\" >11. Unplug from social media<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-13\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#12_Spend_your_time_with_someone_special\" >12. Spend your time with someone special<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-14\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#13_Random_acts_of_kindness\" >13. Random acts of kindness<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-15\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#14_Set_new_goals_for_yourself\" >14. Set new goals for yourself<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-16\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#15_Change_one_thing_everyday\" >15. Change one thing everyday<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-17\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#16_Join_a_support_group\" >16. Join a support group<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-18\" href=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/#Conclusion\" >Conclusion<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Introduction\"><\/span>Introduction<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cFeeling sorry for ourselves is the most useless waste of energy on the planet. It does absolutely no good. We can\u2019t let our circumstances or what others do or don\u2019t do control us. We can decide to be happy regardless.\u201d \u2013 Joyce Meyer<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bad things happen. That\u2019s just a fact of life. When something bad happens in our lives, it can be so easy to fall into a negative spiral of feeling sorry for ourselves. Accepting defeat and giving up feels easy, because it takes less work than pulling ourselves out of a pit of despair. However, psychotherapist Amy Morin states that, \u201cfeeling sorry for yourself can be downright self-destructive.&nbsp;<strong>It makes overcoming adversity difficult\u2014if not impossible\u2014and it keeps you stuck.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We are all guilty of letting ourselves wallow in negative feelings for longer than we should, oftentimes letting them pass on their own without working to make ourselves feel better. However, life doesn\u2019t stop moving no matter how much we feel sorry for ourselves, and our pity parties sometimes have to be put on hold. Here are the best ways to stop feeling sorry for yourself and learn to move on with life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>HERE ARE THE WAYS TO STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND GAIN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Life isn\u2019t meant to be easy. It may be true, yet it\u2019s the last thing you want to hear when in the midst of self pity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You feel perfectly entitled to feel sorry for yourself and you wish those positive do gooders could see how awful your situation is. I totally get this. I\u2019ve been there a few times when life has delivered unexpected doozies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Relationships end and life becomes a struggle, or you don\u2019t get that job you really wanted. You miss an important deadline, the stock market crashes or you lose your home. There are a multitude of things that don\u2019t go the way we want them to and it\u2019s natural to feel sorry for ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Here\u2019s the thing though:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s okay to have the blues for a while in any one of these instances and more. In fact, I always say it\u2019s important to feel the emotion instead of stuffing it down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">However, problems arise when we get stuck in self pity and it becomes our automatic go to in any difficult situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Becoming stuck in this mindset means we run the risk of never learning from our mistakes in a positive way. It also stops us from feeling empowered, finding solutions and achieving what we want in the long term.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Regularly feeling sorry for yourself over a long period of time can also lead to depression. And it can even lead to physical health issues like coronary heart disease.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Even more alarming; an article written in The Independent states that&nbsp;<strong>self pity can be as bad for your heart as smoking 20 cigarettes a day!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Contrary to much you might read about self pity, it\u2019s not an emotion in itself; it\u2019s a state of mind. It happens when you focus too much on your own problems and believe you are a victim of circumstance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This mental focus leads you to feel emotions like sadness, anxiety, hurt and helplessness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It feels good to wallow in self pity over the short term and that\u2019s why it\u2019s easy to fall into. But if we stay in it for too long, it becomes like a deep black pit that\u2019s difficult to climb out of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The good news is, there are a number of ways to change this debilitating state of mind. The sooner you nip it in the bud and get started the easier you can let go of self pity for good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-medium\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1000\" data-attachment-id=\"1772\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/vi\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself\/stop-waste-time-feeling-sorry-for-yourself-2\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Stop-Waste-Time-Feeling-Sorry-For-Yourself.webp\" data-orig-size=\"1000,1000\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Stop Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Yourself\" data-image-description=\"&lt;p&gt;Stop Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Yourself&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Stop Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Yourself&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Stop-Waste-Time-Feeling-Sorry-For-Yourself.webp\" src=\"https:\/\/trinhducthanh.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Stop-Waste-Time-Feeling-Sorry-For-Yourself.webp\" alt=\"Stop Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Yourself\" class=\"wp-image-1772\"\/><figcaption><em>Stop Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Yourself<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Give_Yourself_Compassion_First\"><\/span><strong>1. Give Yourself Compassion First<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When something doesn\u2019t go the way you want it to, instead of trying to grin and bear it, allow yourself to feel sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We are meant to feel a whole range of different emotions. Trying to be positive in the midst of a difficult time, means you have to stuff the real emotion down. This is not good for you or good for others, because the emotions are likely to resurface at a later time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Allow yourself to really feel what you are feeling. Be compassionate with yourself just as you would with a dear friend or loved one. Reach out to others and ask for support if you need it. And let others be there for you when they want to be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This enables you to really connect with your emotions and feel supported. And when you do this you are less inclined to resort to feeling sorry for yourself later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Start taking up these 13 Simple Habits to Cultivate Self-Compassion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Become_Aware_of_the_Pain_of_Self_Pity\"><\/span><strong>2. Become Aware of the Pain of Self Pity<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There is a turning point between a healthy feeling of hurt and sadness and moving onto self pitying. And because it feels good to begin with, it\u2019s easy to miss the turnaround.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Feeling sorry for yourself not only creates pain for you but it creates pain for others too. Not many people want to be around you if you are always down. Or they could even feel guilty for being happy around you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s not long before your friends begin to avoid you, because it doesn\u2019t feel good to be around you. Instead of seeing that as something else to feel hurt about, become aware of the pain you are creating for yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">No one can make you feel anything, only you control the way you feel. Become aware of the pain you are creating and make a firm decision to change it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Refuse_to_Be_a_Victim\"><\/span><strong>3. Refuse to Be a Victim<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Victim mentality is quite often the cause of self pitying behavior. It\u2019s called the drama cycle and for some reason we choose to blame someone or something else for the way we feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The drama cycle initially feels good, because as a victim, someone else tries to save us from our problems. This means we feel nurtured and it\u2019s nice to know someone cares about us. We feel significant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The thing is this destructive cycle can become quite addictive and plays havoc with our relationships. Most people don\u2019t want to associate with someone who looks for a personal negative on everything they say and do. And the person who is constantly rescuing begins to feel tired of the extra responsibility.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Decide that your relationships are too important to risk damaging them. Make a stance and refuse to be a victim. Handle things like a responsible adult would and look for your part in any situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Change_the_Hidden_Question_That_Keeps_You_Stuck\"><\/span><strong>4. Change the Hidden Question That Keeps You Stuck<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As humans, we ask ourselves questions all the time. In fact, it is the basis of our internal communication. And the answers we receive are based on the quality of the questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The question victims most often ask themselves is \u201cWhy?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cWhy is this happening to me?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cWhy did she do that?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cWhy did he say that to me?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The problem is these are low quality questions. And because our unconscious mind immediately answers those questions, it will give low quality answers. For example;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBecause you\u2019re not good enough..\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBecause she doesn\u2019t like you\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBecause he doesn\u2019t value you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Any question beginning with \u201cWhy\u201d will keep you stuck in your current situation feeling like a victim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Make a decision to banish the word \u201cWhy\u201d from your vocabulary and replace it with words like \u201cWhat\u201d, \u201cHow\u201d and \u201cWhen\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For example;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cWhat can I do to get a different outcome?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cWhen will I contact her and explain how I feel?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cHow can I change the situation?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As you change the quality of your questions, you will notice how much more empowered you feel regardless of the actions of others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Take_Responsibility_for_Your_Perception\"><\/span><strong>5. Take Responsibility for Your Perception<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There\u2019s a multitude of ways we can see a situation. But if you regularly hold pity parties, it\u2019s virtually guaranteed you only see things in a certain way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The way we filter information influences the way we perceive things, and this is based on past and present experience. So if we have consistently seen things in a negative way in the past, it\u2019s likely we will continue to do so unless we bring awareness to the table.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Psychotherapist and international expert on mental strength Amy Morin states that our emotional state influences how we perceive reality.[2]<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And the way we perceive reality also affects how we feel, so it\u2019s a self perpetuating cycle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">No one makes us see anything the way we choose to see it. And in my experience the way we initially view things, is often not what is really happening at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Our perception creates our reality and by changing our viewpoint, we are able to change any experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Take responsibility for the way you are viewing a situation and challenge yourself to see it in a different way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you feel troubled by an experience, get yourself a sheet of paper and write a list of every perception you can think of. You will be surprised at how off the mark you initially were.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Embrace_Courage_and_Be_Kind_to_Yourself\"><\/span><strong>6. Embrace Courage and Be Kind to Yourself<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It takes courage to hold up the mirror and look at our part in things, but this is the only way to sustainably change. This is because we only ever have complete control and influence over ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There are always two parts in any situation, whether it\u2019s a disagreement with someone else or that job you didn\u2019t get. And when we look at our part, we gain insights on how to change or improve next time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Holding up the mirror doesn\u2019t mean beating yourself up for your mistakes. This is just another form of self pity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Be kind to yourself in this process \u2014 30 Ways To Practice Self-Love And Be Good To Yourself. Observe yourself and give yourself advice as you would a trusted friend.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As you do this, you will notice your self-pity decrease and self-empowerment increase. You will always gain personal growth and benefits from each circumstance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_Acknowledge_the_Good_in_Your_Life\"><\/span><strong>7. Acknowledge the Good in Your Life<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The main mindset of self-pitying behavior is to have a negative default. This means we rarely look at the good things we have in our life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Because of this, the fastest way to turn this around is to make it a practice to regularly focus on the good. You may have heard this before and that\u2019s because it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I am a big believer in keeping a gratitude journal and have been doing this daily for eight years. It certainly keeps me on track with acknowledging the good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Begin each day by writing down 5 to 10 things you are grateful for. Make them different things each day. From the simple things like the drinking water coming out of your tap to the bigger things like your pay cheque arriving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can also do this out on your daily walk or driving to work. Instead of being lost in your thoughts at those times, stay aware. Actively look for things to be grateful for like the trees or rain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As you practice the attitude of gratitude you change your automatic default from negative to positive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8_Notice_Others_Less_Fortunate\"><\/span><strong>8. Notice Others Less Fortunate<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">With all the disasters happening in our world right now, it\u2019s easy to find examples of others less fortunate. This is comparison used in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That person you thought spoke rudely to you yesterday is a minute hurt compared to people currently losing their homes in fires globally. That is huge pain. They\u2019re trying to put their lives back together and help others right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Instead of feeling wrapped up in your own despondency, look for ways you can help others and make a difference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Contribution is one of the fastest ways to feeling good and taking your attention away from yourself. It builds huge positive connection with others. You will feel like you are doing good in the world and see you are making a difference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is good for you, good for others and good for the greater good. And you will notice your self-confidence and empowerment soar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9_Set_aside_some_time_to_volunteer\"><\/span><strong>9. Set aside some time to volunteer<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Even when things are going wrong, it\u2019s always good to be reminded that things could be much worse. Not only that, but volunteering for someone in need means that you\u2019re putting positive energy out into the world. When you give positive energy, you get positive energy. It\u2019s a great way to remind yourself that there are people who have it worse off than you, and it\u2019ll snap you right out of feeling sorry for yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10_Count_your_blessings\"><\/span><strong>10. Count your blessings<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When life feels like it\u2019s weighing you down more than normal, it can be a good thing to stop and remember all the things that are good in your life. Reminding yourself of all the things that you\u2019re grateful for is a good way to put your life into some perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Founder, facilitator and personal insight coach of The Insight Technique\u2122 Kimberley Cohen states, \u201c\u2026 if you don\u2019t see the blessings then you focus on the problem rather than the solutions. Instead of being hopeful, you become hopeless. You can become stuck, frustrated, stressed, discouraged, defeated and depleted.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Maybe you have a good job, or a fantastic family or partner. Count your blessings and see that even when things go wrong, you\u2019ve got it pretty good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"11_Unplug_from_social_media\"><\/span><strong>11. Unplug from social media<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you\u2019re having issues comparing yourself to the people around you, it can be a good idea to unplug from social media for a while. The thing about social media, is that people only post things that they want you to see. So, of course you\u2019re going to be seeing all of the good and positive things. Instead, just unplug from social media and take some time to yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"12_Spend_your_time_with_someone_special\"><\/span><strong>12. Spend your time with someone special<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Whether this person is your partner, your best friend, or just your family, it\u2019s important to spend time with people who love and care about you. When we feel sorry for ourselves, it\u2019s easy to feel like nobody cares that we\u2019re going through a hard time. Spending your day with someone important to you can remind you that this isn\u2019t true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"13_Random_acts_of_kindness\"><\/span><strong>13. Random acts of kindness<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Do something nice for someone, and you\u2019ll get a positive energy boost that can snap you right out of your pity party. Not only will you make someone else\u2019s day, but you\u2019ll be riding the high from their happiness right until bedtime.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kindness expert Jennifer Willis-Rivera reveals, \u201c[After practicing more acts of kindness on a regular basis], I found that the mornings that I woke up angry, I found myself a little less angry,\u201d she said. \u201cWhen I had to interact with people I didn\u2019t like, I found myself really learning to value them as human beings.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Whether you buy a small gift for someone you love, or simply pay for the person behind you at the coffee shop, being kind can set off a chain reaction of good deeds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"14_Set_new_goals_for_yourself\"><\/span><strong>14. Set new goals for yourself<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Instead of wallowing in negative feelings, try setting some goals that will help you pull yourself out of feeling poorly. It\u2019s hard to be upset when you\u2019ve got something else to focus on. If you\u2019ve lost your job, make a goal to send out a certain number of resumes within the week. Setting goals will help keep you focused and help take your mind off feeling bad for yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"15_Change_one_thing_everyday\"><\/span><strong>15. Change one thing everyday<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It doesn\u2019t have to be something big. Just a small thing about yourself that you want to change to make you a better person. If you feel sorry for yourself because of your situation, it\u2019s good to start making small changes to improve it. Before you know it, you\u2019ll be waking up as someone in an entirely different situation than the one you started in \u2013 and you\u2019ll be surprised how great you feel about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"16_Join_a_support_group\"><\/span><strong>16. Join a support group<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If all else fails, then joining a support group is a great way to both find yourself a support system while also finding people who understand what you\u2019re going through. Friends and family can often be lacking in understanding our specific experiences. A support group, however, is often for people in the same boat who need the extra support. You\u2019ll be able to talk to people and get ideas on how to move on or feel better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Conclusion\"><\/span><strong>Conclusion<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People often feel sorry for themselves \u2013 after all, it\u2019s human nature, but philosopher Dr. Megan Reik explains, \u201cThere are few human emotions as warm, comforting and enveloping as self-pity. And nothing is more corrosive and destructive. There is only one answer; turn away from it and move on.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You shouldn\u2019t feel badly if you give in to having a pity party every once in a while. However, it\u2019s also important to know when it\u2019s time to move on. If you have trouble figuring out how to pick yourself back up off the floor, don\u2019t worry. The rest of us have that same problem. Hopefully, these ideas will help you figure out how to feel better and more positive with time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Self pity isn\u2019t a good or bad thing; it just doesn\u2019t work over the long term. The more we feel sorry for ourselves, the more inclined we are to keep repeating unwanted circumstances.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Life will never be easy all the time, because that\u2019s not why we are here. As humans, we are here to experience variety, which includes pleasure and problems. And within each unwanted issue is the opportunity to grow and create a better life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Give yourself support and look for solutions to create the life experiences you deserve. From this standpoint, your problems will no longer have the hold on you they once had.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\"><i>Source:\n<ol class=\"has-small-font-size\">\n<li>https:\/\/www.lifehack.org\/articles\/communication\/why-and-how-let-your-self-pity.html<\/li>\n<li>https:\/\/www.powerofpositivity.com\/8-ways-stop-feeling-sorry\/<\/li>\n<li>https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/intl\/blog\/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do\/201505\/9-ways-get-past-self-pity<\/li>\n<li>https:\/\/www.selfgrowth.com\/ARTICLES\/STOP_THINKING_LIKE_A_VICTIM_SELF-PITY_IS_A_ROADBLOCK_TO_YOUR_HAPPINESS_AND_SELF-CONFIDENCE.HTML<\/li>\n<li>https:\/\/www.selfgrowth.com\/ARTICLES\/TROUBLED_TIMES_WHY_IT_S_IMPORTANT_TO_COUNT_YOUR_BLESSINGS.HTML<\/li>\n<li>https:\/\/www.randomacts.org\/NEWS\/KINDNESS-EXPERTS-JENNIFER-WILLIS-RIVERA\/<\/li>\n<li>https:\/\/www.independent.co.uk\/news\/why-self-pity-is-bad-for-your-health-1247346.html<\/li>\n<li>https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/au\/blog\/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do\/201505\/9-ways-get-past-self-pity<\/li>\n<\/ol><\/i>\n<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Introduction \u201cFeeling sorry for ourselves is the most useless waste of energy on the planet. 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